Breastfeeding can be a rewarding experience for many new moms. However, it can also be a source of stress, anxiety, and frustration for some. Understanding the impact of breastfeeding on your mental health, recognizing when it becomes overwhelming, and knowing how to cope can help you cope with the challenges of breastfeeding.
Why Breastfeeding Affects Mental Health
The relationship between breastfeeding and mental health is complex. Research has found mental health benefits of breastfeeding. Mothers who breastfeed experience lower rates of postpartum depression and less severe symptoms. However, when mothers experience difficulty breastfeeding, their mental health can be negatively impacted.
While breastfeeding can be enjoyable for some, it can also be difficult. Mothers may experience physical discomfort due to sore nipples, latching issues, and mastitis. When these physical challenges are not addressed, it can have a negative impact on your mental health.
During the newborn stage, you may need to nurse several times a night, which could disrupt your sleep. It's common to feel physically and emotionally exhausted. Some mothers put significant pressure on themselves to breastfeed and may experience feelings of guilt, shame, and inadequacy if they struggle or stop. Without support, these thoughts and feelings can run wild and overshadow the pleasurable aspects of breastfeeding.
Recognizing When Breastfeeding Is Affecting Your Mental Health
It’s important to recognize if breastfeeding is negatively impacting your mental health and then take action. Some common signs to look for include:
- Increased anxiety or worry about your ability to breastfeed or your baby’s nutrition.
- Obsessive or intrusive thoughts about breastfeeding.
- Feelings of guilt or failure if you’re struggling to breastfeed or choose to supplement with formula.
- Irritability, sadness, or anger during or after breastfeeding sessions.
- Emotional detachment from your baby or difficulty bonding.
- Physical symptoms of stress, such as headaches, tension, or fatigue.
Tips for Managing the Emotional Challenges of Breastfeeding
If you are finding breastfeeding to be hard, you are not alone. Here are some tips for helping cope with the emotional aspects of breastfeeding:
- Set Realistic Expectations: Understand that breastfeeding is a learned process and it may take time to get comfortable. Every baby and mom is different, so be kind to yourself if it doesn’t come easily.
- Seek Support: Reach out to a lactation consultant, postpartum support group, or a trusted healthcare provider if you’re struggling with breastfeeding. The La Leche League offers breastfeeding resources and a directory of lactation consultants. Sometimes, a small adjustment in technique can make a big difference.
- Consider Mixed Feeding: If exclusively breastfeeding feels overwhelming, consider supplementing with formula. Remember, feeding your baby in a way that works best for both of you is what matters most. And it's okay if your breastfeeding journey looks different than others.
- Prioritize Self-Care: Make time for activities that help you relax and de-stress, whether taking short breaks, meditating, or asking for help with nighttime feedings.
- Communicate Your Feelings: Share your feelings with your partner or a close friend. Sometimes just talking about the emotional challenges can provide relief, especially if you have someone who can help you feel less alone.
- Consult a Mental Health Professional: If breastfeeding is triggering intense emotions or contributing to symptoms of postpartum depression or anxiety, consider seeking help from a therapist. A mental health professional can offer guidance on managing these feelings and help you navigate the best decisions for you and your family.
When to Wean: Listening to Your Mental Health
If breastfeeding continues to cause significant emotional distress, you might consider weaning. There is no right or wrong time to stop breastfeeding, and it’s most important to listen to both your body and your mental health. Making the decision to wean doesn’t mean you’ve failed—it means you’re making the best choice for both you and your baby.
At Phoenix Health, we understand the unique challenges new mothers face. Our specialized therapy services offer support for moms struggling with postpartum mental health, including stress and anxiety related to breastfeeding. Whether you need help navigating the emotional challenges or just want someone to talk to, we’re here to help.